Do you make choices for other people?
In a business that is full of choices from what to audition for to whom to cast, sometimes we need to take a moment and consider how our choices affect other people…and also how not giving a choice can impact you and the person you’ve made the decision for.
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Whose Choice Is It Anyway?
All too often I have made choices for other people.
Aside from the usual choices made for my kids every day from what to put in their lunches to the winter coats they wear to what’s for dinner, I began to notice how I would start to think for other people outside of my home instead of giving them the freedom to choose thereby making it virtually impossible for them to make a decision about what they would do if given the chance.
Little things like, “Should I invite so-and-so to this event? Will it be too much of a bother for them?” or “I need to find a babysitter but I won’t ask so-and-so because they’re probably busy,” or “I need help but I’m not going to call because I am afraid that I will be a burden.”
At the core of these decisions I was making for others, the common denominator for not allowing them in was fear.
Getting Through The Woods
Over the last couple of months, I’ve seen how not asking people can cause guilt, hurt feelings and missed opportunities, none of which would have been experienced if I had simply extended an invitation, called for help or heeded that ‘nudge’ that you get when you know you ought to do something.
I now consistently listen to these nudges (or promptings as I call them) and the results have been remarkable. Not only am I feeling better about myself for doing so, others are letting me know that:
A) They were grateful for the opportunity to help
B) They were happy to have been thought of
C) I am not perceived as a burden after all (phew!)
D) Some actually came through to be part of what I had hoped they would!
Sometimes we fail to let others take care of us to our own detriment. Don’t let yourself and others down by not even presenting an opportunity out of fear. Being afraid does nothing good for you…so instead, do things out of love. If perfect love is present, fear cannot exist.
As you may know, we’re in the thick of a major LA casting call for a cartoon set to air in January. This exercise has given me an immense opportunity to help those who would not regularly be in front of a Los Angeles casting director to be heard.
While I’m not in a position to make any decisions casting wise for this project, I find it a great privilege to be in a position to offer people the opportunity and the CHOICE for whether they audition and for which roles.
When finding someone else in the Voices.com search engine who had asked for sides to be sent, I happened to see a listing for a talent who might be a good fit for the roles. I thought, should l send this talent an invitation? They didn’t ask, but then again, I didn’t offer. Ultimately I sent them four audition invitations and I hope they consider the opportunity. This scenario is rare where casting is concerned but sometimes you need to spot opportunities for others, and more often than not, they are directly under your nose. It just takes a different set of eyes and way of looking at things.
I’ve seen a number of Los Angeles based talent refer their peers to audition knowing that the roles would be *perfect* for them. Those people wouldn’t have been able to submit if it weren’t for open minded people who kept an eye out for their friends.
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Looking forward to welcoming you to the conversation!