Craig Benzan

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Craig Benzan

Category Audiobooks
Language English (North American)
Voice Age Middle Aged (35-54)
Description An excerpt from Chapter 4 of Free Your Mind, written by Darryl D. Diptee.
Transcript Note: Transcripts are automatically transcribed and may contain errors.
this type of pain manifests as a wide range of negative emotions such as fear, sadness, worry, anger, frustration, jealousy, loneliness and other undesirable feelings. But again, what causes thes unwanted emotions to occur? Unlike physical pain that is typically initiated outside of ourselves, like when bitten by a dog, emotional pain gets triggered within the mind. If the mind isn't controlled by its owner, this type of pain can last for a lifetime. Let's take a look at an example to better understand how this works. Let's assume that when you were a child, your older sister locked you in a closet to punish you for touching her stuff. It was dark and scary in there, and the only reason she lets you out is because you cried and promised that you would never go into her bedroom ever again. The entire event probably lasted 30 seconds, but that was more than enough to burn the experience into your mind for a lifetime. You see, whenever an extreme emotional experience occurs regardless of its painful or pleasurable, the mind captures every last detail about the moments so that you'll be able to recognize similar future events. This improves your survivability. Since you'll know how to recognize extreme pain or heightened pleasure, let's fast forward. 20 years later, you're now an adult planning a surprise party with your fiance for your future in laws. As the final touches to the surprise party are being put together, the in laws pull into the driveway an hour earlier than expected. As they begin to enter the house, your fiance thinks quickly and unexpectedly shoves you into the pantry to hide you as not to ruin the surprise, even though the intention of your fiance was a fun and loving one. The moment you're forced into that small, cramped, dark space against your will, a massive amount of emotional pain from an event you haven't thought about or talked about for 20 years is instantly triggered. This time, instead of being scared and helpless, you become energized with anger or maybe even rages. Your primal defenses become activated. You instantly analyze your fiance, thinking what kind of demented person just shoves someone into a dark pantry that's so rude, immature and unloving, and you'd be 100% right if you are actually describing your fiance. However, the emotional pain felt at that moment isn't from your fiance shoving you into the pantry. The emotional pain felt is actually from 20 years prior, when you were a helpless little child and your older sister bullet. Due to teach you a lesson, you just happen to stumble upon an experience that triggered painful emotional memories from your childhood, causing you to relive a frightening experience from your past within the virtual reality of your mind. Instantly or heart activates with painful negative emotions of betrayal in the present moment, causing your wonderful fiancee to pay the price for an innocent action. As in the previous example, much of the emotional pain you experience in relationships, your job, your community and just about anywhere else has absolutely nothing to do with the actual event that's occurring. At the moment, emotional pain can almost always be tied back toe, a belief, event or experience of being abandoned, taken advantage of, lied to punished, shouted at or some other type of undesired experience that is etched into your mind in hopes of identifying future occurrences so you can avoid them. As life unfolds. Sooner or later, we all find ourselves in a situation where we unknowingly step on an emotional land mine that activates old past emotional pain. Your boyfriend might say something in a certain tone, or maybe your wife wears a dress of a certain style. Whatever it is. Emotional pain never has anything to do with the event that triggered it, but rather the internal mental processing of the event itself. If you can take a step back and get to know what this means about you, it could be a very empowering feeling.