A Stress Free Christmas
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a stress Free Christmas. How Not to Kill your family and survived the festive season Using proven stress management techniques. Written by David Heiner, Narrated by Kevin Girgis. A Stress Free Christmas. How Not to Kill Your Family and Survive the Festive Season. Using Proven Stress Management Techniques of Top Achievers by David Hiner This Christmas, the snow may be piling up outside. The full and extended family might have established base camp in your living room, expecting you to wait on their every women desire at a moment's notice. The credit card is having a seizure in your purse or wallet, and the dog has eaten what smells like the contents of Satan's underpants and is letting everyone know about it. Maybe the tree is leaning in a manner that suggest when it will fall over rather than if it will fall over. And your kids have ensured that their list of preferred gifts from Santa, not Satan, has been burnt into your memory. Three. Repeated pointing at the home shopping catalogue and going nose to the TV every time and advert comes on showing their chosen gift. The supermarket turkey seems to have originated from a country that you have never even heard of and appears to be bigger than your oven and your to scared to check. You just know that your cousin has got their child the perfect gift at 10 times the cost you have been able to afford, and your parents are already wrapping your gift that you just know, is the cookery book that you gave them last year. Your evening seemed to consist of picking up cards that have fallen off the fireplace or sweeping up needles off the tree that was supposed to be non dropping. And your next door neighbor's lights on the front of their house makes your flashing light in the window look like a really poor effort. There will never and I do mean ever be enough batteries, And the noise from those toys will be enough on their own to send you to the doctor for a referral to the local secure unit. That's special toy that you purchased after much online research. Onley just made it from the Far East in time, and then it did not work, but worse than this was the fact that your child was more interested in the box than the toy anyway, You are looking at your diary, allocating meals to use up the food mountain that your supermarket home delivery man dropped, giving him to hernias when it came to the bags containing the wine and beer. And the tipping point will be after dinner on Christmas Day, when you have finally washed up the last of the dishes and you drag your sorry carcass into the front room where the TV is on full volume showing again. Chitty Chitty Bang Bang your family, all asleep, hugging their overstuffed bellies apart from the kids who look at you with expectant puppy dog eyes as if to say, What are we doing next? Acknowledgements. I wish to think every top achiever 200 plus of them. I'm not naming them all here, but you know who you are, who so kindly gave their tips, techniques and expertise during my research. To my many teachers, trainers and coaches along the journey, I salute you all. Especially Professor Adrian Fern ham Sanjay I shy Tony Burgess, Julia French in cash Gil, amongst many others, having a faith has proven to be a great stress relief for myself. So, God, if you're listening. Cheers, Big Guy. You rock neo Bakewell for giving me the belief that I could actually write e books and for the Internet Fox CSB for nailing me to the deadlines above all else, I must think the thousands of delegates over the years who have allowed me to test and prove many of the enclosed theories my amazing friends who put up with me going on and on about my work and my inspiring wife and son who keep me on the right path most of the time. Introduction. This book gives you the skills, knowledge and confidence to not become the richest person in the graveyard and survive the hectic, busy and sometimes manic festive season. Health wealth through stress prevention, about the author David Heiner and his research, David Heiner is a professional speaker, author, broadcaster and researcher in the area of personal effectiveness. He has conducted many years of research interviews with outstandingly successful, highly effective men and women from all walks of life. These top achievers have included scientists, inventors, authors, explorers, sporting world champions and millionaire entrepreneurs. During these interviews, these people shared the secrets of their personal effectiveness, their thought and behavior systems and processes, enabling us to better understand how their seemingly more stress free than the rest of us and perhaps more importantly, therefore understand how we can become more effective ourselves. We can gain an insight into the ways they think and behave so that we can do the same and hopefully have more energy, time and less stress along the way. These research interviews shed light onto the ways in which these people actually prevent stress rather than manage it. After all, why would you want to manage stress if you can prevent it? Prevention is key. This stress prevention book gives you the tools to increase your certainty, confidence and conviction and managing and preventing levels of stress that otherwise limit your effectiveness. This book is based upon the ways that top achievers think and behave when preventing stress. It looks at the causes and symptoms of stress, as well as numerous, easy to apply methods and processes of stress prevention. Why write a book about having a stress free Christmas, how not to kill your family and survive the festive season when interviewing top achievers over the past years? Guess how many of them, when asked the question. How do you manage your stress? Answered. Oh yes, I managed to my stress. None of them, nearly all of them said, I do not manage my stress. I prevent it. And this is what I dio in this book. We will therefore look at ways that you can use to identify what causes your stress with riel. Emphasis on this tricky time of year and what you can do to limit or prevent your levels of stress. Enjoy Christmas more and maybe, just maybe not, kill your family in the process. We will also be looking at prevention methods, including a closed. I oughta genic a visual head to toe. Relax ation process. I hope you enjoy this book and reap the benefits of reduce stress, increase effectiveness and increased energy levels. When fully applied, you could possibly expect increased levels of alertness, intellectual capacity, thinking power, energy for your personal life and or energy for your work. Whatever it is you need more energy for this stress prevention book will make you more effective. The techniques shared within these pages are not designed to train you toe work with other people and their challenges, But more to help you experiment with numerous simple to use and apply techniques in the hope that you will find one or two things that really work for you. Go on, set yourself a goal. To enjoy the festive season, stay friends with every one of your family and survive Christmas causes of stress. In this book, I'm going to make an assumption. How dare I A. Well, because you're reading this. It suggests to me that either you or someone that cares about you believes that Christmas and New Year is likely to be causing you some anxiety stress or at best, brings out your bad side. Therefore, I accept that there are loads of people for whom Christmas and New Year is a complete joy, and that for 11.5 months you look forward to two weeks of fun parties, family gifts, faith and festivities. Stress can mean different things to different people. My take on the meaning of stress is that it is a strain or pressure that can be emotional, mental, physical, skeletal, negative or, indeed positive. The Oxford Dictionary suggests that stress is pressure or tension exerted on a material object. Let's first of all look at and consider just a few of the possible causes of stress. Ask yourself a few quality questions. Is there anything you can do to limit or remove the causes of stress? Where can you begin to look at that? How can you begin to limit or even remove stress? There are so many causes of stress for each of us. Our stressors can be found in different causes and so are very individualized. For example, we could look at our situation and ask, Does the stress come from my home life? Personal life or work? Where does it come from? A combination of these. Do you ever feel strange or pressured in anyway by one or more of these situations? While you love your family? Do you dread having to spend long periods of time in the house with them over Christmas at home? Have you got a newborn baby that is keeping awake at night into the early hours of the morning? Or maybe you have broken sleep patterns that may be causing you stress. Has the present or food shopping been left for you to do and turned out to be stressed? City. Last minute dot com. Maybe you're having a disagreement with a loved one. Ah, friend or family member that is causing you. Your stress is a relationship issue, with your family likely to cause friction, and there is no escaping it. Maybe it is the credit card challenge, having given it a right hammering in the lead up to Christmas or maybe an ongoing financial situation. Just come into a lot of money. Or maybe you don't have enough money. Either can cause stress. Or maybe it's just in unfulfilled life. No sense of purpose at work. Is it your boss that is screaming at you day in and day out about things that are not necessarily your fault? Is it a conflict with other members of staff, clients, suppliers or other members in your team? Would you at times rather be at work rather than at home or Christmas to avoid the pressure? Or is it about relationships? Could it be that pets within your home or causing you stress, or maybe taking the dog for a walk five times a day over the festive season is your way of escaping the madness at home? I used to have a huge friendly but very accident prone Labrador dog that we all love dearly. But boy, oh boy, did that dog causes awesome stress. Is it environmental? Are you too hot? And you prefer to be cold or do you prefer quiet and it's too noisy. Will your normally spacious home become cramped with people? A tree and gifts? Food, Drink noise. Ah, is it the car? Is it objects? Things, situations, finances, Children? What is it for you? Your relationship with C s A control, security and acceptance. One of the easiest things you can do toe identify your areas of stress is to look at your relationship with C s A control, security and acceptance. These three things in the main are the biggest causes of stress and yet they are within our control much of the time. Yes, that is right. Much of the time you can control or at least manage better the very things that are causing you the biggest stress. Once you understand them except and then act upon them, you may be asking what have they got to do with stress? Well, what we found during our research was that most people stressors could be pinned down to 12 or any combination of these three things control security and or acceptance. People may either desire more or fear lack of control in a situation. Individuals may desire mawr or fear ah, lack of security in a situation. Or maybe they are in a situation where they either desire mawr or fear a lack of acceptance by the people around them. If, as human beings we feel secure in control and accepted, we tend to be happier and less stressed. Some individuals are very at ease being loners, with few, if any, friends, some of those on the autistic spectrum, especially so and so acceptance might be less of a stressor for them. Others may really value the acceptance of others but truly enjoy the thrill of being out of control. Thrill seekers, hodong, Mrs drug addicts, etcetera and some may enjoy controlling their destiny and enjoy others acceptance of them yet feel very at ease in situations that others might feel insecure in