Hurt versus Harm
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EnglishVoice Age
Middle Aged (35-54)Accents
North American (General)Transcript
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This is Michelle Bacon's and I am reading From a Blawg by Pete Wilson, where he discusses the difference between hurt and harm. I just started a new book yesterday called Necessary End Things by Dr Henry Cloud. So far, I love this book. If you know me, you know I'm a people pleaser at heart making decisions and having conversations with others that I know hurt them are tough for me. I've learned their necessary, but I still have a great deal of anxiety that accompanies such things. And I bet you do, too. It's hard to have a tough conversation with someone who's not meeting expectations. Fire a staff person who you know isn't in the right position. Confront a friend who's stuck in a pattern of confessed sin. Shut down a ministry in your church that at one time produced a lot of fruit. But hard isn't always negative. Neither is hurt necessarily negative. The illustration Doctor Cloud uses in the book is having an infected tooth pulled. Is that hard? Yes. Does it hurt? Yes, but is it really negative? Not really. It certainly isn't harmful. The dentist does have to inflict some pain, but it's actually ah, positive or healing event. Dr. Cloud made a great distinction that I think we all need to remember, he wrote. There's a huge difference between hurt and harm. We all hurt sometimes in facing hard truths, but it makes us grow. It could be the source of huge growth that is not harmful. Harm is when you damage someone facing reality is usually not a damaging experience, even though it can hurt. As a leader, you have got to redefine what positive and negative is positive is doing what is best and right for the business and for the people. I'm working hard to make difficult decisions and hard conversations, a normal occurrence in my life and leadership and view them as a positive instead of seeing it as a problem. Some of them may hurt, but it done with the right heart. They don't have to harm