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Chapter two making better choices. Soon after we moved to Denver, we discovered something we've never seen before. Goat heads goat heads are wicked little thorns that grow in this part of the country and have what look like ears, horns and knows of a goat. They fall to the ground with their Warren's pointing in the air. And if one happens to work its way into your shoe or your bike tire, it can really ruin your day. In fact, if you live in the West, it will come as no surprise to you that we've changed more bicycle tires since moving here. Then, during all the years that we lived in the Upper Midwest combined, serious bikers take multiple precautions against goat heads for even the thickest mountain bike tires Each day, as we journey into the unknown floored woods of our personal and professional lives, we have countless choices to make. And what are we choosing? Not our next action but our next thought. Choose the wrong thought, and we're off in the emotional goat heads of blame, complaining and procrastination. But the right thoughts lead us to a richer, more fulfilling life and the feelings of pride and accomplishment that come from making productive decisions. The idea that we are accountable for our own choices and are free to make better ones is fundamental to the Q b que. Sometimes people think they have no choice. Most say things like I have to or I can, but we always have a choice. Always, even deciding not to choose is making a choice. Realizing this and taking responsibility for our choices is a big step towards making great things happen in our lives. Want to avoid goat heads and make great things happen? Make better choices. Chapter three. The question behind the question. Now let's talk about the tool that brings personal accountability toe life. The question behind the question. The Q B Q is built on the observation that our first reactions are often negative, bringing to mind incorrect questions. But if in each moment of decision, we can instead discipline our thoughts to look behind those initial questions and ask better ones, the questions themselves will lead us to better results. One of the guiding principles of the question behind the question is the answers are in the questions, which speaks to the same truth If we ask a better question, we get a better answer. So the question behind the question is about asking better questions. But how can we tell a good question from a bad one? What does a better question look like? This book will help each of us learn to recognize and answer better questions. For starters, here are three simple guidelines for creating a question behind the question one. Begin with what or how not why winner, Who to containing I, Not they, then we or you three. Focus on action. What can I do, for example, follows the guidelines perfectly. It begins with what contains and I and focuses on action. What can I do? Simple, as I said. But don't let its simplicity full you like a Jewell. The question behind the question is made up of many facets. In the following chapters will explore these facets and see the full effects asking questions behind the questions can have on our lives. Chapter four. Don't ask. Why Ever heard these questions? Why don't others work harder? Why is this happening to me? Why do they make it so difficult for me to do my job? Say them aloud. How do they make you feel when I see them? I feel powerless, like a victim. Questions with the Why me tone to them say I'm a victim of the environment and the people around me not a productive thought, is it? But we asked them all the time. Quick point. If you've been trained on the five wise of problem solving or selling, that's not what we're talking about here. Those air useful, inappropriate. What we're referring to are questions that begin with why and have the poor me tone that leads straight to the classic pity party. Anyone can fall into the white trap. I asked the department manager once how many people work for him, and he said about half. It's a funny line, but he was undoubtably the kind of manager who would also ask incorrect questions. Why can't I find good people? Or why doesn't the younger generation really wanna work? Why don't I get more direction from upper management? It's all victim thinking, and there's too much of it in the world already. I wasn't a long flight. Sitting next to a man in his mid fifties, we introduced ourselves and started a friendly conversation along the lines of where you headed and what do you do? Turns out he owns a second home near Aspen and was just returning from a 21 day ski vacation. Wow, I thought, 21 days and aspirin. This man has some discretionary income. He went on to say that he lives in New York City and works on Wall Street. Guess what he does. He's not a broker. He's a personal injury attorney. When you asked me about what I do after for the quick and easy answer, author and speaker Oh, really, he said. What do you speak about? I consider this for a moment and thought, Why not? So I said what I always say personal accountability, wondering if he'd see the irony and the humor. It took a couple of moments. We stared at each other and he fitted it. Finally, just to be clear, I added, What I really do is help people, including myself, eliminate blip victim thinking from their lives. He must have understood me then because he got up and moved and we never spoke again. I have nothing against him or his profession. He's simply providing was demanded by a culture that continually asked, Why is this happening to me? But even as we shake our heads about the ills of society, let's not forget that society is made up of individuals. You and me. The best thing we can do to get rid of victim thinking in our world is to get rid of it in ourselves. The first question behind the question guidelines says all Cube accused. Begin with what? Or how not why winner who take a look again at the Why questions at the beginning of the chapter and consider what would happen if we asked them these instead. How can I do my job better today? What can I do to improve the situation? How can I support others?