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welcome back everybody to the Random PM podcast and I know what you're thinking bro. Random, you literally said you were doing guests only episodes. I did, I did however inspiration struck and when it struck, I don't want to miss out on the opportunity. Here's what went down. So I was watching my favorite Youtuber or one of them, their group, love live serve. If you know who there are, then you're low key, one of my favorite people on the planet. They're really good. I love their content. I'll leave a link to their channel down the description below. But anyway, they made an episode recently or not episode because not everything is a podcast, but they made a video recently about happiness and it was a video that I can't really explain because I want you to get the full context. So click on that link down below. But basically the video got me thinking like, am I truly happy? What do I find that makes me happy? What do I do when I think others aren't happy? And then my brain just started turning with all these ideals and so I was like, man, if I were to waste the opportunity to talk about this today, then I would be a goofy poopy doop E head. I'm sorry, that was immature. But anyway, well I am immature, I'm that guy. But yeah, what is happiness? I don't think it can be explained in a word and I honestly don't even know myself the true meaning of happiness because yeah, I'll receive something like a gift or or something like that and I'll be like, oh man, I'm really happy right now, but then I could just be surrounded by family and friends and be like, okay, I'm happy now, so I don't think I can pinpoint the exact thing that is true happiness because so many things give it to me right? And so I think the only way I can describe what happiness is is the absence of sadness and that's all I can really say about what I believe. True happiness is now, don't get me wrong, I'm not trying to be like all depressing and all, nobody's really happy and yada yada yada, but I do want to get out the point that, you know, some people really have no idea what happiness is because they've been in the deep darkness their entire lives, right? And so what I want to talk about really is what I think brings me happiness and what I think I have when it comes to my ideals and the flaws about my ideals of happiness and kinda what I understand so far about it and as well as how I think sadness plays into me being happy and that'll make sense more as we cover more in the episode. However, I do want to let you know, have a big announcement coming up soon, so stay ready for that and yeah, it was a big announcement, you're going to be very proud of your boy, I've been working ******* it, but anyway, happiness Well, here's what I will say, here's what makes me happy. Does receiving things make me happy? Of course, you know, if your boys told me about to go to the mickey d's or you know Taco Bell or I'm giving money or a gift that makes me happy, but I think happiness, I don't think you can forever be happy, right? I believe that happiness comes and burst, which I believe ties into balance. So here's the thing, I believe that life is all about balance. I don't think you're always gonna have one good forever or one bad forever. I think that you're going to have a happy balance. So I think happiness kind of comes and burst, like you're happy and you're sad, but then you're happy and then you're sad, but then there's a lot of things that come in disguised as happiness that's not really happiness. So I'll give you an example alcohol, I mean I'm not, I'm not judging anybody who drinks that I'm not trying to convert, I'm not trying to do none of that. But what I'm saying is you may drink and be like, oh, I'm happy now, but that's false happiness, you're not actually happy, you're just numb and there's a difference. But again, I'm not on here trying to convert nobody, this is not the conversion podcast where we convert all alcoholics, that was speed in the background if you just heard that, you know, my boy speed, he makes me not happy, he's actually kind of he needs some mental help. But yeah, I think that a lot of things that occurred to me are disguised as false happiness and you're not really happy now. I want to talk about the many ways you can get happiness and a lot of the times people are gonna say, oh well my significant other or boyfriend girlfriend bring me happiness and um that's another thing that I'm kind of like iffy on so here's the thing, you're with your boy or your with your girl, you think you're happy, you break up and you realize they really only brought you sadness. So were you really happy or were you confused? You know what I mean? Like how do you know when you're actually happy because you may think I'm happy, but you're probably not, like I said with alcohol, you drink, you might think you're happy but you're not or you have a toxic person in your life who you think is making you happy, but really they're hurting you. So happiness can be, can be disguised. So how do you know when you're really happy, Right? And then you have all these things that like try to give you that quick dopamine reaction that oh this advertisement here or the designer clothes there? But so it's happy. The thing that comes in bursts and there's always disguise or are we going to be able to one day truly know what happiness is, because everybody thinks they have the answer. Everybody thinks they know, oh, well this is happiness. If I do this this and this, I'm happy, or I know by this guideline that I'm happy. But are you really write, like, and that ties into another thing of like, oh, I'm okay, I'm happy, I'm fine. But how do we really know you're fine or happy? Right. And so for me personally, I believe that, I don't think, I think if you do say you're happy, it's not gonna last okay, because no way you're gonna be happy all the time. And if you do say you are you're lying Okay, Because then that would throw off the whole balance of emotion. You know what I mean? I think you need to be sad. I think sadness is a very important thing. I think anger is a very important thing because if we're going to even have a chance to to find out what is really happy, we have to have that sadness because if it pulls us out of that sadness, if it pulls us out of that anger, then okay, that thing might have a shot at what is actually happiness. Right? So, I mean, I know that things material objects can bring you happiness. But is that really happiness or you just, you know, contempt? Because see, I don't understand. And again, I'm not a psychiatrist, so I don't really or is it a psychiatrist, therapist? I don't really understand it myself, but here's what I will say though is that I would rather be contempt than happy. I would rather you know I have a perfect example okay or not example but it's a song by a J. R. And it goes I'm not any happier but I'm way less sad so I'm not sad. What do you call it when you're not sad but you're not like jumping for joy? Happy. Are you just contempt? Is that the word? Are you contempt? Because I think a lot of people are contempt. Like when they get that material object they're not happy. They're contempt there in that space a period where they're not sad but they're not happy, they're just contempt. And even so what how do you know when you're happy like I'll be out and I'll be scrolling through the gram or whatever and these girls will be like all laughing and and joy or this dude will be like oh yeah I'm in such a great mood, I'm all this this and that and I'll be like oh I'm glad you're doing well, I'm glad you're happy and you know I'm not happy and I'm like oh but you were just smiling and looking like you were happy and they were like oh well you know I'm really not. So then it's like okay so we know on the outside appearance, happiness can be like a mask you may think that somebody's happy, but they're really not. So then the question I have for everybody is, well then how do you know if someone else is really happy or not because they could totally be having a mask? Is there a one for sure. Fire way to tell that okay, that individual is happy or is it like, you'll never know because people are getting so good nowadays at hiding how they really feel that you're like, okay, well I can't really tell and then it's like every day we live our lives of, I need to do the next big thing for happiness. It's kind of like kind of like, I don't want to, I can't really use that example, but it's kind of like, okay, say Youtube channel, you get 100 subscribers that brings you a rush, but now you need more. So you want that 101,000 million. And that's helpful for like, you know, growing your channel and stuff. But are you really happy when you hit each of your goals or you, because if you're really happy with where you're at then why would you want more? You know what I mean? If you're truly happy, why would you want to move towards something that you may potentially be unhappy with right? And maybe I'm saying it wrong, Maybe I'm just a confused old boy who has no idea what he's talking about and I really don't because I'm not, I don't know, I don't know myself a true happiness is and if you're religious you're probably like, oh well you can only find true happiness in God, right? And I'm not saying that's a bad way to look at it, but then what is the answer for all the people who don't believe? You know, and I think it's a big problem, you know, you'll be like, oh well, you know, I'm a christian, so God is the thing for me, right? And then it's like I'm not mocking christians, but they'll be like, oh I'm a christian, but God is the thing for me, right, Well then how do you help those who don't believe if converting them is not working and I don't like the word convert, but if you're trying to get them to believe in God, but they don't then you have to find a way to get it through to them on a level that they don't understand. So, you know, for other people who don't believe in God then are they not happy because they don't believe in God? So that means that every other every unchristian is unhappy because they don't believe in God, so can people who are not christians even be happy, right? And so I'm trying to explain it in a way that trying to bring everybody in through the loop and yeah, I don't really know where I'm going with this, I thought I had the inspiration and I do, but this one is more of I'm confused and that video really got me thinking of, okay, well, what am I doing? Am I really happy? Or am I just, you know, right now? But I think that I'm not really the best qualified to talk about, you know, what is truly happy or unhappy. So because of that, I'm going to find somebody who understands it a lot more than I do. Here's what I will say though. I'm not sad. I'm not like, oh my gosh, I hate my hate podcasting, I hate this, this and that. I love what I'm doing. I'm happy. It's just a video got me thinking, well, okay, is am I truly happy? Or do I have what I'm calling disguised happiness and I'm not really happy. But anyway, I wanted to vent a little bit, kind of between my thoughts. If you didn't like it or if you think I'm wrong about something, I'll let you a lot or I'll allow to be able to question to be asked. But, you know, I'm gonna kind of end this one right here because I'm gonna bring someone on who's a bit more qualified to speak about it. And even, I don't have my feelings of what I believe, happiness is all together. And so it would be wrong of me to teach you all or try to tell you what's right and what's wrong and I don't even have it all together in terms of my thoughts and beliefs. But anyway, I appreciate each and every one of y'all and you know, my goal. If I can make you forget you're hurting for the duration of the episode, then I'm doing my job. But anyway, I appreciate you guys for rock with me. You already know the drill, get with the program and stay random. Thank you so much for listening.