An excerpt from a handbook about how to build confidence and security
Young Adult (18-35)
North American (General)
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being happy. A Handbook to Greater Confidence and Security by Andrew Matthews. Chapter one Patterns Let's take a look at this mind of yours when you walk across the road. Do you have to concentrate on every step when you chew gum? Do you have to think about it when you eat a pizza? Do you have tow work at digesting it? Now? If I could just fix this anchovy, I can relax and go to sleep. When you go to sleep, do you need to concentrate to keep breathing? You don't do any of these things with your conscious mind, do you? You do them with your subconscious. We might say that the mind is like an iceberg. There's the part. We see the conscious and the much larger part. We don't see the subconscious. Our subconscious mind is responsible for a large slice of the results that we get in our life when we find history repeating itself in our lives. It is that part of our mind that is responsible. Many of us have recurring patterns. The same old experience or behavior keeps on cropping up. Do you know somebody who is always late? I used to play tennis with a fellow who was always late. We would play tennis before work at the Hilton. I would say David were playing tennis tomorrow at 7 a.m. He would say, I will be there. Have you got that time? 7 a.m. I will be there. Sure enough, at 7 15 next morning, David would arrive. He had all the excuses. My son had barred my racket and put it under his bed. Next week, the same thing would happen. At 7 16, David would arrive the reason I could only find one tennis shoe the following week. He arrived at 7 15 sharp. The goldfish was sick and the baby was crying and so on. Through the flat batteries, power failures, lost car keys and underwear that was left wet in the washing machine. Finally, I said, David, let's make a deal for every minute that you are late. From now on, it will cost you a dollar. He hurt his shoulder the next day, and we have not played tennis since. He thought that the world was doing it to him. He was not trying to be late, consciously, but on his subconscious. He had a program that said, You are always running behind, and that program was running his life