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good day. I am Siyabonga Messina, and I am going to give you guys a short background of myself. I I'm an educator by profession, teach kids great for up until grade seven, and, um, I love working with kids. Enjoy teaching them, coaching them as well. I'm a sports fanatic. Love coaching. I enjoy being outdoors with the kids and getting to learn more from them as much as getting to understand how they were their mindset work and allow them to be themselves and learn as much as possible from them. Um, I'm a father of two beautiful kids, a boy and a girl, 84 and two and a marriage to an amazing woman. My wife, Melinda, and we just outgoing family. We love trying new things We love moving around being, um, outdoors have been adventurous and creating memories because memories is absolutely an important part in our lives. So we like being out there and having fun amongst people that enjoy, uh, enjoying life. I'm just quickly going to read a book here that is titled The Sports Coach. The psychological behind coaching and the author is Mr Yanni Butter. This book speaks about coaching how to coach and how to be able to help kids when they are going through challenges during, UH, sports, whether it's on and off the field, whether it's at a home, uh, players being when they need motivation and or when they fatigue discipline, it deals, it deals about that. A short piece that I am. I'd love to read these, Um, it's the third chapter that speaks about what is the role of the coach. And when you look at this role of a coach, it's quite an interesting, quite an interesting passage that I will. I'll read for you guys and it would just follow. What is the role of a coach? As we all know, Children from the same home with the same circumstances and the same upbringing will differ dramatically. We all are unique and different. As a coach, you have to know that no athlete you work with is like another. Everyone is unique. People differ inherent in their DNA, their mind and spirit. Only a fool will think that he can treat different individuals in the same way and hope to be successful in coaching them. The skill of successful working with human being lies in wisdom, the wisdom to know what to do with whom and when to do it. Coaching is nothing about you. It is all about the child or adult or team you work with. The goal of parenting is to inspire or show, empower, give opportunities and two in mentor coach your child in hitting his or her mark in life live a meaningful and purposeful life. The goal of coaching is to understand whom you are working with and then to inspire and empower that individual or team to achieve their full potential. Their aim of coaching is not to become a person of such importance that you have a manipulating power over the talents such importance that you have a manipulating power of their talents and abilities of the athletes you work with. Such a coach will have athletes who are dependent upon him or her. They will be unable to make decisions for themselves. You might feel powerful, but you are not. If you are surrounded by weak or insecure people, it means that you are weak yourself. The aim of coaching is to optimise the ability of the athlete you work with, which will be, which will enable them to perform skills, make correct decisions in their heat of the moment, express a willingness to take risks and trust themselves and performing a particular task or challenges, thereby they will live exciting, daring, adventurous and meaningful lives. And who knows, they might even become the next world champion. The fame and glory of the moment will go to the athletes. Part of that glory and fame will come to you. You should always be in this shade side of the fame and glory of the moment. Coaching is serving. That is how it should be. It is part of the mysterious, mysterious of being a real coach. It should never be about you. It should always be about your athlete or team. The search for real coaches has become so intense that if you are truly one, you will never be without opportunities. If you are truly good, people will find you. Every stop of success in history has been the results of a process never a quick fix. It might look like a quick success to the naked eye, but behind the success of every worthwhile and diva is a process of growth growth is never a quick thing. Real growth doesn't have a shortcut. Shortcuts to success doesn't exist, even though the world might want us all to think it. Shortcut stories always have, said endings. The shortcuts to gaining massive and bulky muscles through the injection of anabolic steroids is a great example of what I mean. Only a fool will be fooled. You don't become a real coach overnight. You have to start your journey somewhere. You have to learn about planning about agreements, about hope, about expectations, about disappointment, about headaches, about excitement, about keep on. Keeping on. All of this is part of the process of becoming a real coach. We are all different. Our differences causes us to interpret things differently. People attach things, values. People attach different values to the same events. Some will interpret harsh words as an indication that you are disappointed in them and that they have failed you To others. Harsh words will simply mean that you see more potential in them and they need to heighten their intensity. Some people will take harsh words is a personal accusation, whilst others take those same words as a source of motivation. The same words with the same intention and the same intensity, yet total different interpretations and results. One athlete loses trust and his willingness to take risks. All hearts were whilst other athlete flourishes and perform better. Your work as a coach is to know how to work with whom. The reality is that you often don't get a second chance. My own son lost his passion and love for the game of rugby because of his interpretation of their reactions and methods of his Grade one rapid coach. The coach did not understand the youngster and their reasons for taking part in there in the game. He did not understand how to work with my son and many of the other boys. He worked with them as he was not as yet. They he lost their hearts. One of the biggest traps many coaches step into is the chap of familiarise families. Coaches who work with young Children may think that the kids are too ignorant to understand a lack of knowledge and commitment. Coaches pretend to have their know how of coaching, but they don't the thumb suck, and in many cases they try to duplicate what they have seen in a YouTube video television clip. The fundamentals, the foundational knowledge and understanding regarding specific skills are non existent. Most primary school coaches just do a job. They keep Children busy with a few basic exercises. They learned, uh, attending and elementary coaching courses. Most of them tried to duplicate exercises they've seen on television. The foundational principles are never taught because they don't know them. How many of us have stepped into this trap? We teach something we think we know, but the truth is we have no understanding of the underlining principles which are necessary to be successful in a skill. How many of us have worked with Children without really knowing whom we worked with? Had you known that you were working with the next Springbok, all the next world, uh, world champion, you probably would have done it differently. Familiarity is a is his comfort zone and a trap many even the best coaches often step into you. Don't coach who your athlete is, You coach, who you are. You don't think about how your athlete interprets and sees things. You coach, how you interpret and see things. It takes time to build, trust any coach can put forth his best foot. In the beginning of a coaching relationship, you give it your best to win in the heart and the trust of your athletes. Once you have it, you need to treat it gently. Trust can be lost in a moment. Becoming a team coach and athlete is essential. Once your combination works well and perform performance improve, this team might need to expand. No one ever makes it to the top alone. When a coach is mature enough and safe in himself, he will expand this team by involving more specialist into the process of preparing his athletes for competition. The better and Adlai becomes, the bigger the need for specialist coaching and training. This means that the team will expand in the world of sports. This team might look like this. A head coach, physical conditioner, technical adviser, space specialist coaches in the game of Rapid, this means scrum coach, line out, coach, back line coach, attacking coach, defence coach and kicking coach, mental coach, dietitian, manager, administrator, public relations manager, coordinator, agent sponsors, etcetera. In the future, they are going to be even more specialists in several errors. The reason research and development never stops the quest to find the marginal differences makers constantly intensifies the rewards associated with success. Increased daily. Consider the following I coaching hand eye co ordinating coaching foot coaching movement, co coaching flexibility and strength. A rhythm coaching judgement, coaching focus, coaching, social media, flatter etcetera. If you look at this list and you are older than 40 years, you will probably ask questions. Is all this really necessary? Is this not the responsibility of a coach? A fact of life is things constantly change. Whoever refuses to embrace change will stagnate and die. New techniques are developed daily. New understanding of the laws of universe courses use to improve constantly. New discoveries are made daily. How would you have reacted to a thought that a 50 tonne aeroplane will be able to take off gently into the air in the 1950? You would have believed it to be impossible. Yet our young generations of today think nothing of it. It is part of their lives. Let me take you back to the legendary event performed by a man with the name of Roger Bannister on the sixth of May 1954. For decades, the attempt to run a mile in less than four minutes was vital. No one could do it. Even medical doctors became convinced that no one would ever be able to do it. They were so sure that they claimed that human body won't be able to deal with the strain put on the heart in the attempt to run that fast. They went so far as to predict that a human heart would burst if it went beyond that limit. Roger Bennett Stir was not threatened by these predictions. In fact, he was motivated, challenged and inspired. He started to train with the aim to break the four minute barrier. And he did. Today it is no surprise when an athlete runs a mile in less than four minutes is a matter of fact. The current world record of Hi Jim El Guerrouj Arena of Morocco was set on the seventh of July 1999 and his time was a staggering three minutes 43 seconds and the 13 split seconds more than 16 seconds faster than what was believed to be impossible to achieve. Another fact is that with change from a position of comfort and familiarity, the human mind will always offer some form of resistance. Comfort and familiar familiarity provides a feeling of security and predictability, a safe place in the world of coaching. Doing unfamiliar things might be risky for your future as a coach, as well as the future of your athletes you work with. What if it does not work? What if someone gets hurt? You are working with someone's life and dreams. The easiest thing to do is to step back to the traditional ways and familiar methods of the coaching. Technologically development and our increased understanding of physical technical development and our increased understanding of a physical and mental principles do not allow us to get stuck in the in comfort. If you want to be a front runner in the quest to go further, faster, higher and stronger, you will have to continue growing and adapting two changes. The goal is to develop these changes ourselves. Most importantly, you will have to continue expanding your beliefs about what is possible. Building a coaching team, the most important role player in this team of coach and athlete remains you the coach, as you believe your athletes will believe only a coach can give 100% authority to any other specialists. Joining the this team. You have to identify cell and agree with any new specialist you bring on to the team. If your athletes have any doubt or uncertainty about another member of the coaching team, it will never work. If an athlete does not have 100% trust and believe in a coach, coaching is impossible. Example. You invited dietitian to talk and teach your athletes about correct eating habits. Unless you have a personal meeting and discuss with this person. And unless you agree to and commit support and verify his or her viewpoints and advice, this will be a waste of time. You have to believe in what this person teaches and preachers only, if you believe. Can you expect your athletes to believe, too? It is. It can never be a nice to have alternative. Your at least have to buy in. There is no alternative. You either believe or you don't. You either commit or you quit. You as a coach will have to back expert and do exactly what the dietician discuss and taught. You are either part of the team or you are not. Many coaches get specialist to prove a nice to have alternative. Little do they realise that what they really do is to open a backdoor for failure. When you ask to become the mental coach you are of your athletes, you will have to agree with my philosophy the way I approach things. If you don't don't ask me. It will simply cause doubt and conflict in your athletes mind, and it will do more harm than good. We have to speak the same language. What it means is that you, as a coach, will be accountable for every specialist approach in the same manner as if it is. It was you yourself coaching to your athletes. It is a team at work, even if it is eventually only one athlete performing the task. If I was to say, we focus our attention only to finding solution and waste no energy on speaking about the mistakes, you will never do exactly that. In your coaching, you have to stop your athletes. When you see them deviate from this agreement, you have to tell them we focus only on solutions, not problems. Those are what we decide in the session with Yanni. You edify me now we work together as a team. This is how a team is built. Each and every member of the team back and verify each other. We function together as a unit speaking the same language. When one member of the team has a session with an athlete or athletes, the other member of the team has to know what is discussed or preferably attended the session themselves. Each member of the team has to understand the principles which are discussed and taught by any other specialist on the team. The more important one member of the team overrules, other trust is lost and a door is open for doubt and failure. When you decide to enlarge and strengthen the team, it is imperative to is imperative that you know, agree and support the person specialist and his or her method. It is the only way you build a real team. The dependence and loyalty your at least have towards you as main coach will always cause them to seek your acknowledgement and agreement before they accept the teaching and coaching of any other specialist. And ladies and gentlemen, that was just a short background in a short passage of the amazing book of uh, Mr Johnny Peta, the sport coach, the psychology behind coaching. And this just gives a short description of how coaches actually play a mess, a massive role in a big background of, uh, players. So that's that's That's a The coaches play a huge play, a huge role. So thank you for the short description and we'll communicate again.