Heart advice for Difficult times
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checked a nine six kinds off loneliness. Usually we regard loneliness as an enemy. Heartache is not something we choose to invite in. It's restless and pregnant and hot, with a desire to escape and find something, or someone to keep us company when we can rest. In the MIDI, we begin toe have, ah, non chattering relationship with loneliness, a relaxing and cooling loneliness that completely turns our usual fearful patron upside down in the middle way. The reason or reference point. The mind with no reference point, does not resolve itself, does not fixate or grasp. How could we possibly have no reference point? To have no reference point would be to change a deep seated habitual respond to the world, wanting to make it work out one way or the other. If I can't go left or right, I will die. When we don't go left or right, we feel like we are in the detox center. We're alone cold turkey with all Maginness that we've been trying to avoid by going left or right that Maginness can feel pretty happy. However years and years off, going to the left or right going toe. Ah, yes or no going toe, right or wrong has never really changed anything. Scrambling for security has never brought anything but momentary joy. It's like changing the position off our legs. In meditation, our legs hurt from sitting cross legged, so we moved. And then we feel for what? A relief. But 2.5 minutes later, we want to move them again. We keep moving around, seeking pleasure, seeking comfort and the satisfaction that we get it very short lived. We hear a lot about the pain off Samsara, and you also hear about the liberation. But we don't hear much about how painfully days to go from being completely stuck, toe becoming unstuck. The process of becoming unstuck requires tremendous bravery, because basically, we are completely changing our way off perceiving reality like changing our DNA. We are undoing a patron that is not just our patron. It's the human patron. We project onto the world a zillion possibilities off attaining resolutions. We can have witter tete a weed free lawn off, try free life, a word without embarrassment. We can leave happily ever after. This pattern keeps us dissatisfied and causes as a lots of suffering as human beings. Not only do we seek resolution, but we also feel that we deserve resolution. However, not only do we not deserve resolution, we suffer from resolution. We don't deserve resolution. We deserve something better than that. We deserve our birthright, which is in the middle way an open state of mind that can relax with paradox and ambiguity to the degree that we bean avoiding uncertainty. We are naturally going toe, have withdrawal symptoms, withdrawal from always thinking that there's a problem and that someone, somewhere, needs to fix it. The median weight is wide open, but its tongue going because it goes against the grain, often ancient, neurotic patron that we all share when we feel lonely. When we feel hopeless, what we want to do is move to the right or the left. We don't want to see it and feel what we feel. We don't want to go through the detox yet. The middle way encourages us to do just that. It encourages us to awaken the bravery that exists in everyone without exception, including you and me. Meditation provides a way for us to train in the middle way in staying right on the spot we are encouraged not to judge whatsoever. Arises in our mind, in fact, were encouraged not to even grasp whatever arises in our mind what we actually call Google bad with simply acknowledges sitting would have all the usual drama that goes along with right and wrong. We are instructed to let the thoughts come and go, as if touching a bubble with a feather. The's straightforward discipline prepares us to stop struggling and discover a fresh on by a state of being. The experience of certain feelings can seem particularly pregnant with desire for resolution, loneliness, boredom, anxiety. Unless we can relax with these feelings, it's very hard to stay in the middle. When we experience them, we want victory or defeat, praise or blame. For example, if somebody abandons us, we don't want to be with that role, this comfort. Instead, we conjure up a familiar identity of ourselves as a helpless victim. Or maybe we avoid the rawness by acting out and righteously telling the person how messed up he or she is. We are traumatically want to cover over the pain in one way or another, identifying with victory or week Tom Hood. Usually we regard loneliness as an enemy. Heartache is not something we choose to invite in. It's restless and pregnant and hot, with a desire to escape and find something, or someone to keep us company. When we can rest in the middle, we begin to have a non chattering relationship with loneliness, a relaxing and cooling loneliness that completely turns our usual fear for patrons upside down. They're six ways off describing this kind of cool loneliness. They are less desire, contentment, avoiding unnecessary activity, complete discipline, not wandering in the world of desire and not seeking security from one's thesis. Cursive thoughts, less desire is the willingness Toby lonely without resolution. When everything in us yearns for something to cheer us up and change are more practicing. This kind of loneliness is a way off sewing seats so that the fundamental restlessness decreases in meditation. For example, every time we label thinking instead of getting endlessly run around by our thoughts, we are training in just being here without the association. We can't do that now, to the degree that we weren't willing to do it yesterday or the day before or last week or last year after we practiced less desire wholeheartedly and consistently something shift. We fi less desire in the sense of being less solidly seduced by our very important story lines. So even if the heart loneliness is there and for one split second, we seat with that restlessness. When yesterday we couldn't see it for even one. That's the journey off the warrior. That's the path of bravery. The less with spin off and go crazy. The more retains the satisfaction off cool loneliness As the Zen master cut it. Jerry Roshi often said one can be lonely and not be tossed away by it.