Imposter syndrome

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That's my jam jam. Okay, Imposter syndrome. What is it? And why do I feel it If you've ever felt like a fraud? Or that you don't deserve your success because you aren't qualified or good enough, then this episode is for you. Today I'm going to give a brief history and break down what imposter syndrome is why we feel it, and three questions that you can ask to overcome it. What is Imposter syndrome? Impostor syndrome is exactly what's kept me from making this next episode for three months now. At first it was like I don't know, uh, just going to take a couple weeks off and really find out where this thing is going. And I had no idea that someone had asked me what is question everything, and I couldn't answer it. Imagine that it's kept me from thinking that I know what I'm doing or that I don't have this degree. I don't I don't know what I'm doing with video. I don't blah blah, blah. All this stuff that that we tell ourselves that way don't deserve or not. Good enough, whatever Imposter syndrome, also known as imposter, phenomenon and pasta, is, um fraud syndrome. And the imposter experience is a psychological pattern where someone doubts their accomplishments or their talents, and they have a persistent internal fear of being exposed as a fraud. And that's what I was feeling like, Really, you're making shows like just you're just gonna pick up a camera after you get cove it and just start trying to help people with questions because it helps you. Despite the apparent evidence of their competence, those experiencing this phenomenon they remain convinced that they're frauds, that they don't deserve what they have achieved. It's crazy because most people can see clearly. You know what you're doing. You're at that point where you've got some unconscious competence going on. You're unaware that you know what you're doing because you're just doing it so well. People with imposter is, um they incorrectly attribute their success to luck or see it as a result of deceiving others into thinking that they're more intelligent than they perceive themselves to be. While research focused on the prevalence among high achieving women, imposter syndrome has also been recognized to affect both men and women equally. Ladies men were equal. We just don't say it is actually five subgroups these people usually fall into. Now. I won't go too far and all that. There's the perfectionist. There's a superwoman or Superman. There's the natural genius. There's the soloist and the expert. I don't know where I fall under that, but I'll figure it out. I don't have time to get in all five, like I said, but I recommend that you look into it if you'd like more information on it, so why do I feel it? You know what needs to be done and how to do it. You have all the tools at your disposal, and honestly, you could do it in a day. So why are you procrastinating these air? The questions that I've asked myself over the last three months with this episode that's a really good question. Why did it take me three months to hit you with a new episode? When the last episode I talked to you and I promised that it would be the next Monday, I was dropping episodes back to back and bam! It hit me. Who am I to speak? How am I qualified to help others? The questions backfired on me, but it's because I left knowing about this impostor phenomenon gave me awareness. And with that awareness comes power the power to choose. If I'm gonna live by these thoughts or see them for what they truly are and let them go, I'm the only one that could make that choice, though no one could make it for me. Obviously, I made the choice to continue despite feeling like I'm not qualified and I continue to educate myself and try to surround myself with like minded people. The more I do this, the more I realized that just like the most successful people I know and look up to, I suffer from a human condition. Sometimes I could feel like a superhero, and other days I feel like a con artist. But the best thing that I could do in spite of these feelings is keep moving forward one step at a time, embrace the moment, plan for the future and visualize the success. Which brings me to the final point. How do I not feel it? There's a lot you can do, but here the top three Stop comparing your blooper reel toe. Other people's highlight reels Stop comparing your blooper reel to other people's highlight. Really? Because that ain't riel another way. I've heard this said to stop comparing your insides with other people's outside. That's the trap of social media that I've noticed. They'll see someone post something, and they were like, Oh, I wanna post something like that and they'll post something and not get the same attention. And then they get upset and feel like it's personal. I'll tell you a secret. It's not about you, boo boo. It's an algorithm you're in competition with, and they're things you have to do to trigger it. Even if you did, what other people think about you is none of your business. It usually has more to do with them than it does you anyway. But just in case, you should probably look into that because it just might be to remember nobody has all the answers. That's why we ask questions. If I was to draw a diagram that illustrate the way we think and in comparison to the reality, it would look like something like this. What, what you know, versus what you think they let me share another secret with you. This is more what it looks like in reality what you know versus what they know. The reality is that you know the same amount of other people just in different areas. And combining knowledge by asking questions can lead the innovation and revelations that air otherwise basically impossible. If you let the insecurity silence you perfect segue to my final point. Think positively and admit when you make a mistake, the majority of our actions and results in life could be attributed to our thoughts. Do you ever take a minute to think about what you're thinking about just before you feel anxious or get depressed the next time you're happier, excited, Notice the thoughts that you're having before that positive thinking is undersold and, in my honest opinion, could cure a lot of these clinical diagnosis that have people sedated with pharmaceuticals. Admitting when you make a mistake is similar to asking the question in a classroom that everyone else was afraid to ask but actually ends up helping others out. What I mean by that is community looks much better and is more likely to attract people than egomaniac who is never wrong and knows it all. You can see the insecurity in that unfold. Blast like you're not fooling anyone when your humble you're no more than what you really are and you're not less than who you are. You just are you. And when you admit that you made a mistake, it shows that you're not only humble but honest and vulnerable, and it helps build trust. All of those things can open another door to give you another opportunity to feel like an imposter. Or you can choose to believe in yourself and keep going regardless. Alright, So to wrap up, stop comparing your blooper reel with other people's highlight reel. Remember that nobody has all the answers. That's why we ask questions and think positively and admit when you make a mistake, there is a course that is coming. I think it's gonna be amazing. I'm going to take people from confused too confident in 90 days without the need for other people's approval. Also, join our free Facebook group from confused too confident Get the little nuggets as I give them away. So that's how nice. Wouldn't you love to have the confidence you see other people have your like? How did they do and say that? Because you know? Anyway, I still got T shirts available. If you want one. Hoody season is upon us, so Might wanna heard of them hoodies now. And yeah, full disclosure. I'm not really doing this for likes or attention. I don't really care if you like me. I'm here to ruffle feathers, So I hope that I ruffled some kind of feathers or shook something up inside of you. That sparks a change. What? That said, enjoy the rest of your week on Join the Facebook group so you can get daily inspiration. And I'll see you in episode seven. Oh, yeah. Dude, why is six afraid of seven? Yeah, because 789 See you next time E Did it, babe. I recorded Episode six. It's gonna be all over doing in place, but I did it