A Section From One of My Online Coaching Programs
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do you find it difficult to stop eating certain types of unhealthy foods? If so, then you're not alone. Ah, lot of people who want to lose weight struggle with this. And of course, I don't know what your vice is, whether be chips, cakes, donuts, soft drinks or anything else. But that's OK, because all attachments of this kind are created in the same way you have learned to associate that food to a desired emotional state, and the feeling is also tied into a need that you have but don't feel capable of fulfilling in another way. Yes, a biochemical reaction does take place when you eat cake chips, ice cream or anything else. I'm not denying that. In fact, all major junk fruit producers employ scientists to make their products as chemically addictive as possible. But your issues with food go beyond that because all of us experience the sugar rush when we eat those things. But not everyone gets addicted to them. I bring that up because many people are aware of the surface level attachments such as I eat a certain food and I feel good, but they completely overlooked the deeper emotional associations. Let me give you some examples of what I mean. In the 1st 1 we have a little girl, young Sally, who's been feeling down since her parents split up about four months ago. She's living with Mom, and life is pretty good, but the house still feels empty. Once every couple of weeks, she gets to hang out with Dad for the day. Her father, Ron, is a hard working man who doesn't have much time to see his daughter. So he feels guilty about that and makes up for it by spoiling Sally with cake, ice cream, candy and all kinds of treats whenever they go out. Now, when Sally hangs out with her dad, that feeling of emptiness disappears for just a few hours. Life is good again, and it seems like everything is back on track during that time. The young girl is also filling her belly with junk food, and because of that, she gets a sugar rush, which makes her feel even better. Now here's a breakdown of what Sally is experiencing. Number one. Her negative feelings have been replaced by positive ones. Number two, her father is present, which is an occasion to celebrate number three. Her body is tingling with excitement from digesting highly processed junk food. And four, Sally's father is pleased to see that she's having a good time, so her behavior is even further reinforced by Dad's approval. Can you see how this young girl is starting to create some strong emotional associations to the wrong kinds of foods? So here's another scenario that demonstrates how an attachment like this might be formed. Example to Matthew, age seven, lives in a very hostile and chaotic household. He's always being yelled at, chastised or punished in some way. Not from Matthew's perspective. The only time that everyone in his family can get along is when they all go out for pizza on Saturday night. And he learns through years of experience that people only have a good time when food is present and plenty of it. Here's another example. Example. Three. Tracy is a socially awkward child who has trouble making friends at school when she comes home after a hard day. Mom dishes up a big bowl of ice cream for Tracy to make her feel better, but it doesn't stop there. When Tracy falls down and gets hurt, she's given something sweet to ease the pain. When the family dog dies, she's told that a big piece of cake will make it all better. This type of training goes on for years, until Tracy is conditioned to automatically reach for food whenever times get tough. What I want you to realize is that associations like this can be formed easily and for different reasons. It might involve moving toward a positive experience away from an undesirable one. Now this association could also be to a particular category of food, and it may not be formed early in childhood, but even much more recently, and you found it difficult to stop eating some things because it satisfies an emotional need. Therefore, you must remove that attachment in order to achieve any progress. Only then will you have enough mental clarity to make in the moment choices about what's best for you. For now, though, think about what you're most harmful vices are and how you became attached to them. Make a list of any unhealthy foods that you have trouble letting go of that you compulsively eat, then next to each item on your list, right down the emotional state that you experience while eating the food. Don't think about how you feel afterwards when looking back and regret. And don't think about how you feel right before giving into the temptation. Simply write down what you feel while engaging in the act of eating. Whatever that food is, it may be a release. It may be a sense of pleasure, a sense of joy, a sense of freedom. Just write down whatever that is. And I've attached to this video a free worksheet or exercise that will walk you through dissolving those emotional attachments so that you can free yourself from the binds to eating compulsively without knowing why. And I've also included a meditation that will actually start to reshape your mental programming and yourself concept about who you are around food, diet, fitness and weight loss. So listen to the meditation at least once a day for the next week and go through the exercise with each food that you have trouble letting go of, and by doing so, you will be able to restructure your your mental blueprint and eat in a much more intentional, conscious and healthy way. Now, as you create that list to unhealthy foods that you simply can't stop eating. There's another important point that I want to bring up that association. That emotional connection could have been created in an adverse way. Let me explain what I mean. Perhaps, as a child, your parents, they were afraid that you would get heavy, that you would be overweight. Or maybe you were slightly overweight as a child. And instead of showing you sympathy, maybe they restricted you. Maybe they treated you unfairly compared to siblings or other people in the family. So when everyone else was having cake or ice cream, maybe you just couldn't have it or you were monitored so carefully and given such a small piece that you felt embarrassed that it inspired within you a certain defiance against what was being done. And so later in life as an adult, when you have the choice to eat whatever you want, there's still a little part of you that little person inside who still fighting back, who's still trying to prove that he or she can have whatever here she wants, and that person over does it because you're fighting that that childhood restriction and wanting to feel that you can do it, that you can have what you wanna have, and then it just goes overboard. So that's one thing that can happen. Or maybe your family hardly had enough food. And when you were able to get something that was the tasted good, you had to fight for yours before it was taken away by all your siblings or the rest of the family. And so that sense of competition, or of never having enough, was ingrained into you to where now, when you can get what you want, you again you overdo it because there's a part of you that's like if I don't get all there is right now that I'm going to miss out. And so I wanted to mention this as an afterthought to just let you know that this kind of association could be formed in a number of ways. I don't want you just to think about Well, maybe I didn't have those experiences as a child that he described earlier, and so this doesn't relate to me because I'm letting you know it does relate to you, but you just need to use your imagination to kind of see how those pieces fit together. Okay, so that's all I want to mention to go ahead and fill out that sheet, make that list, do the exercise and listen to the meditations, and you will see. But just by doing those three things, your life will change in a profound way very quickly. All right, thanks.