Non-fiction, self-help by Brene Brown discussing the need for true belonging.
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Braving the Wilderness by Bryn A. Brown performed by Rebecca Asher Chapter two The Quest for True Belonging True Belonging I don't know exactly what it is about the combination of those two words, but I do know that when I say it aloud, it just feels right. It feels like something that we all crave and need in our lives. We want to be part of something, but we need it to be riel, not conditional or fake or constantly up for negotiation. We need true belonging. But what exactly is it in 2010? In the gifts of imperfection, I define belonging this way. Belonging is the innate human desire to be part of something larger than us. Because this yearning is so primal, we often try to acquire it by fitting in and by seeking approval which are not only hollow substitutes for belonging but often barriers to it. Because true belonging, Onley happens when we present our authentic in perfect Selves to the world. Our sense of belonging can never be greater than our level of self acceptance. This definition has withstood the test of time as well as the emergence of new data, but it is incomplete. There's much more to true belonging. Being ourselves means sometimes having to find the courage to stand alone, totally alone. Even as I wrote this, I still thought of belonging as requiring something external to us, something we secured by yes, showing up in a real way, but needing an experience that always involved others. So as I dug deeper into true belonging, it became clear that it's not something we achieve or accomplish with others. It's something we carry in our heart. Once we belong thoroughly to ourselves and believe thoroughly in ourselves, True belonging is ours. Belonging to ourselves means being called to stand alone, to brave the wilderness of uncertainty, vulnerability and criticism. And with the world feeling like a political and ideological combat zone, this is remarkably tough. We seem to have forgotten that even when we're utterly alone, we're connected to one another by something greater than group membership, politics and ideology that were connected by love and the human spirit. No matter how separated we are by what we think and believe, we are part of the same spirituals story defining true belonging. I'm a qualitative grounded theory researcher. The goal of grounded theory is to develop theories based on people's lived experiences rather than proving or disproving existing theories. In grounded theory, researchers try to understand what we call the main concern of study participants When it comes to belonging, I asked, What are people trying to achieve? What are they worried about? The answer was surprisingly complex. They want to be part of something to experience real connection with others, but not at the cost of their authenticity. Freedom or power. Participants further reported feeling surrounded by us versus them cultures that create feelings of spiritual disconnection. When I dug deeper into what they meant by spiritually disconnected, the research participants described a diminishing sense of shared humanity. Over and over, participants talked about their concern that the only thing that binds us together now is shared. Fear and disdain, not common humanity, shared trust, respect or love. They reported feeling more afraid to disagree or debate with friends, colleagues and family because of the lack of civility and tolerance